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Who gets to hear what I say?

When you come to counselling, you need to know you are able to talk within a safe, confidential space. It is a key principle that only the counsellor gets to hear what you have to say. As the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy puts it: ‘Respecting client confidentiality is a fundamental requirement for keeping […]

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What approach can I expect?

Although there are various counselling approaches and emphases, research indicates that the underlying quality of the therapeutic relationship between counsellor and client itself is at the heart of effective counselling. So if you are looking for the right counsellor for you, it is important to factor in your own sense of whether you could work […]

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How will I know if it’s helping?

Counselling is very much a personal process. You may experience an immediate sense of relief as you talk out things you have been carrying ‘bottled up’ for whatever reason. You may feel lighter after a session. On the other hand, counselling may stir up difficult issues or insights you have previously buried (precisely because they […]

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How long does counselling last?

In my experience, some people find that once they actually make the space to stop and reflect in counselling, they can gain the clarity they need within a very few sessions. Counselling helps them get back in touch with their true selves and their own resources, and they soon know the direction they wish to […]

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How does counselling come to an end?

Counselling ends when you feel you have made as much progress as you need, wish or are able to make. This may mean that: The issue that originally brought you to counselling has been resolved You have reached a place where you are comfortable and choose to stop You wish to consolidate the work you […]

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What does the MBTI® model do?

The MBTI® model focuses on the ways we use our minds to perceive and engage with the world around us.  It presents 4 alternative preference-pairings that look at how we Get our energy Take in information Make decisions Manage our outer lifestyle Each preference is identified by a letter. The different four-letter choice combinations lead […]

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Is it a test?

No, the MBTI® model clarifies type rather than measure our traits or score our competence. It is completely non-judgemental. Each personality type has a unique and equally valuable contribution to make.

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Does finding my type mean I am labelled and stuck in a box?

Not at all.  The MBTI® model maps how we behave when we go with the flow of our inborn personality. However, we are always free to exercise whichever preference we wish. The model does not take account of every aspect of a person. It highlights broad similarities of behaviour, but how individuals respond to specific […]

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Does our personality type change?

MBTI® theory suggests that preferences are inborn and as natural to us the hand we use to pick up a pen. However, our upbringing, relationships, career choices and circumstances can all impact on how our preferences have developed and are expressed. The MBTI® model has helped some re-connect with who they really are. As a […]

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Is the MBTI® model hard to understand?

The MBTI® model was developed with the specific intention of making its psychological insights accessible and useful to the wider population. An ordinary person with some self-awareness will be able to grasp its essentials and put some of its insights to practical use quite quickly. For those who want to go deeper, there is plenty […]

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  • About Julia


    From writing stories for my younger brother, to penning poems for the School Magazine and filling a growing pile of personal journals, the written word has always been part of my life’s journey.

    I started out as an English Teacher and subsequently retrained as a Counsellor. I have counselled in a GP Surgery and worked with various Employee Assistance Schemes and Charitable Trusts alongside seeing private clients.

    Although I have done some freelance journalism and written four non-fiction books, creative writing has become my main focus in recent years.

    My poems have appeared online on sites including Amaryllis, Silver Birch Press, Clear Poetry, Spilling Cocoa Over Martin Amis, Riggwelter and Ink,Sweat and Tears. I have been published in Curlew and Bucks Mill Magazine, and anthologised in Our Hearts Still Sing. My first poetry collection, Chester City Walls, came out in 2015.

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